The other type

I just got done reading the book,The five Love LAnguages by Gary Chapman. Yes thats a plug. In it he talks about five things that so many couples overlook within themselves for a better and richer rewarding relationship. He begins with our first meeting as lovers in love called, The IN LOVE Experience. We all go through that emotional high. He goes on to explain that we do not stay in that state of empyrean. We all come back down to earth and realize that real love is work. He calls it LOVE TANK. And for you to make love last you must keep the tank of love full. I love this concept. It’s like after the honeymoon is over now where do we go from here to keep this new found love alive and survive. He brakes in down for us in five categories in order called Words of affirmation then Quality Time,Receiving Gifts and the last being Acts of Service and Physical Touch. What are these? These are things within our character that we do not see within ourselves as a functioning couple. These are tools that are already inside our being. Each one of us has an motional Love Language already in the works deep inside of us that we have had since our first baby steps. We are all not alike. Some just need to be told everynow and then that they are a great and wonderful person to do the things they do. Words of Affirmation. Some like to set some time away for one another for a good and healthy conversation and thats all thats needed to show your love and to keep that love tank on full. She or he is happy. Thats Quality Time. Some are full with the gifts from their lover and thats all thats needed.The Receiving of Gifts. Like alot of us in the relationships we assume that just doing things for one another like taking out the trash or mowing of the yard or caring for the house is all that needed to show your love. Maybe it is for some but not all. Thats ok but it may be not fullfulling enough in their love tank to keep the fires burning. This is called Acts of Service. And then there is the person who so much needs that hug and kiss of affection each day to show that they are truly loved by their lover. Physical Touch. Inside of each an every single one of us has one or perhaps two of these Love Languages that need to be employed each day to assure that their love for one another will continue to last throughout their relationship. You see it’s not just simply being in love in the first highly emotional first falling in love experience that keeps couples surviving in a lasting relationship. It’s understanding our working physical fundamental language of love that we all need to truly know and want from each loving couple for them at end of life to know that they were loved. There is my plug.

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